Have you ever noticed how a happy moment can suddenly move into grief? Or how playfulness brings up shame, or peace brings anxiety?
It’s not just you. And it’s not a flaw.
What if I told you it might be tied to an old, unconscious vow—a promise your nervous system made long ago to keep you safe? Maybe, as a child, your joy was met with irritation. Maybe your happiness felt unwelcome. So quietly, without you even realizing, your body learned: “This feeling isn’t safe.”
But here’s the truth: You’re allowed to reclaim what’s yours.
The Work of Unraveling
In my coaching, we gently uncover these hidden vows—not to dwell in the past, but to free your present. Clients often describe the moment a vow releases as:
A physical lightness, like a weight slipping off their shoulders.
A rush of energy, as if their body finally breathes.
A revitalized expressive aliveness in their being
A deeper connection to their limitless self
This isn’t a quick fix. It’s layered work, sometimes spanning weeks or months. Some vows are tangled with others, or woven into generational stories. But with each layer lifted, the shifts are profound.
A Tiny Invitation
Next time joy turns into grief, or peace into anxiety, pause. and askr: “What old story is here?” You don’t have to answer—just noticing begins the unraveling.
I am with you on the journey, because accompaniment is essential in how our human brain is built.
This work is tender, and I honor your pace. If you’d ever like to explore it together, I’m here.
P.S. What’s one moment this week where you felt a shift—big or small? Hit reply and tell me. I read every note.
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One response to “Why Does Happiness Sometimes Feel Heavy”
This resonates so much. Idk what’s a contract or how I would have made it, but lately any time I feel a moment of happiness I find myself crying almost uncontrollably